I think I’m in love. Should I or shouldn’t I?
In the Army, I was a 57E (Laundry and Shower Specialist). I rassled water heaters, water pumps, dryers, washers, portable showers, and generators in Kosovo. Very heavy, hard, work for a small man like me.
So a few days back, my priest tells me the rectory’s water heater is dead. They are doing a lot of building around the rectory right now. I think the older priest was thinking “Well, if we are going to have all this mess, we might as well get EVERYTHING fixed. ” So the water heater is on the fritz. All you can get is tepid water. He asks if I can put in a tankless water heater so they can have endless hot water. I have never put a tankless water heater in a house, but I can’t imagine anything related to water heaters that I couldn’t manage. So the old priest takes me in. And shows me the bathroom. The younger priest is in the shower. He can’t figure out what we are talking about right outside the door, so he finishes up, and comes out in nothing but a towel.
I am in my early thirties, but look much younger. The younger priest is, I think 26. Some people look GREAT in a towel. Perhaps I should mention that I received a General Discharge from the Army and not an Honorable Discharge. Related to my Sexual Orientation.
I had trouble swallowing and couldn’t focus on what the older priest was saying. It was all I could do to pry my eyes away from the rock hard abs, and the incredibly narrow waist. I think I forgot to breathe.
Michael A
I have no idea how God thinks. He actually says flat out :”Your thoughts are not My Thoughts. Your ways are not My Ways.” All I know is I go to confession, I get absolution and Bam! Sin gone. I get Holy Communion and I am set for another week. So far as God is concerned, every sin I have ever commited only dates back to Sunday Afternoon.
Sergio
January 11th, 2010 at 2:41 pm
Leann
its up to you to decide that, do not depend on others
January 14th, 2010 at 5:26 pm
Gisela
go for it tiger
January 16th, 2010 at 7:10 am
Leora
Are you kidding me??? He’s a PRIEST! You need to back off and stay off. That’s completely disrespectful. The guy is spoken for so lay off. He married the Church and is therefore unavailable. I seriously can’t believe you are even asking this.
January 18th, 2010 at 10:33 pm
Berry
OMG, you really were serious!
He sounds incredibly hot.
You do realize, there is one big problem here?
Even though you and I know God is okay with gay relationships, your young priest has made a promise to his bishop to abstain from *all* sex and be celibate.
I don’t know what weight the young father attaches to that promise, but in the eyes of many Catholics he would be sinning gravely if he were to enter into a romantic relationship with someone, female or male.
But let’s say, for argument’s sake, that the young priest is very open-minded. I wouldn’t count on that because most young priests today are quite conservative. But even if he thought it was okay with God for him to have sex, the other big questions are:
(1) Is this priest even gay? and (2) Does he find *you* attractive, and would he want a relationship with you?
And then, beyond that, realize that even if he likes you a lot and even loves you, there are huge consequences to his life if he were ever caught with you. God may not mind, but the Church might possibly have him defrocked and cast out of the priesthood.
The reason this is a problem is that his entire *life* and training is to be a priest.
If he gets kicked out, what would he do? How would he support himself? Will he learn plumbing with you?
Though I wish I could see that priest in his towel with my own eyes, I really have to say to you — don’t just think with your d*ck in this situation. Many huge things are involved.
Should you get to know this priest? Yes! Befriend him? Sure! But don’t be reckless. His life, and your reputation as well, may be at stake.
Only go for this if you know he wants it and if he can assure you this will not derail his life.
P.S. — As to your question of some time back, if you don’t think you are being unnatural or sinning when you have gay sex, then why do you confess it? One should confess if one feels one has sinned, not if one has not sinned. The faithful couples who use contraception (supposedly a grave sin) know they are not sinning, so they don’t confess it. I rather think you should leave your silly, crotchety old priest alone, unless you know you have done something hurtful or unjust.
P.P.S. — I agree on the value of confession.
However, that’s begging the point here.
Namely, I don’t think you are sinning if you share sex with another guy, so why confess it?
The hundreds of millions of contracepting married couples do not “confess” their “sin” because they know it is not a sin, even though some popes have mistakenly said so.
On the other hand, if you honestly do think having sex with a guy is a grave sin, then under that mode of thinking, you should stay away from the young priest, or you’ll have the Lord on your hide for not being genuinely repentant.
But as I said — I don’t believe it is a sin at all, unless the sex is hurtful, takes advantage of another, is domineering, disrespectful, etc.